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Sunday, October 5th, 2008

[from Grandma’s place]
I can’t think. Some *crazy* Chinese television show is on at ear-splitting volume (the elderly are a little hard of hearing) which seems to interfere with my brain waves, rendering me incapable of writing anything that remotely makes sense.

[at the hotel]
Well, despite taking pictures, there are none today as dear Jeremy has gone to bed early tonight. He told me to wake him up with a call when I’m ready to transfer files, but… I can’t do it because I want him to sleep uninterrupted considering how much sleep Jeremy lost over me in the past year. So we can go without for one day while affording him some much needed rest.

I’m tired now, so to recap the day in short: we drove all over town trying to get to Grandma’s place with major road closures for a half marathon, we ate, we drove, we shopped, we drank bubble tea, we ate, we gossiped, we shopped some more, we gossiped, we saw some bad Chinese television programming, I got a headache… But more importantly we laughed and shared and enjoyed our time together. Tomorrow is Grandma’s birthday (according to the lunar calendar). We are gonna have a Good Day! Even better than the days leading up to it. Wish her a happy 87th (88th in Chinese years) birthday!

[Special thanks to Lisa Is Bossy for her awesome dining recs in the Bay Area!]

I’ll answer comments when I get home in a few days. Huzzah!

if i make it that far

Sunday, October 5th, 2008

I was pretty tired last night when we got into our hotel and then I spent quite some time fighting with the wireless connection. I had to email my photos to Jeremy in Colorado so he could load them to my server for me. Good thing that he 1) stays up late working and 2) is awesome in general. Reports are that we are due for snow in the mountains and Miss Kaweah is a little forlorn without me there.

Typically when I visit Grandma, it is with Jeremy. I spend a lot of time translating from Chinese to English and it gets tiring for my brain to work in two languages like that - especially when Jeremy drives and Grandma gives directions and I am the middle step. It’s even crazier because Grandma takes public transportation - she doesn’t drive anymore (hasn’t for many years, and it’s probably good for everyone’s safety!) - so we’ll be at a stoplight in the rightmost of 6 lanes when she suddenly pipes up in Chinese, “Oh, turn left here.” And I’m like, “Ummmm… Jeremy, I have news for you…” He’s used to it by now and he never complains.

There have only been a handful of times that I have visited Grandma without Jeremy. I’ve coordinated visits with my sister, mom, aunt. Several years ago after Grandma had her pacemaker put in, my mom and her sisters took turns to come out and stay with her. When Mom’s turn came, my sister and I flew out too - but it was a surprise for Grandma and there was much laughter and joking. Kris always made me laugh. She made everyone laugh. The last time I saw her before she died was over Chinese New Year - we were visiting Grandma together. Good memories.


testing a flash solution on elena



If you can’t tell already, Grandma is special to me. She is like my second mother. She helped raise me and Kris when we were little. This trip is happy and relaxing - just the girls: me, Mom, Elena (my aunt and my dear friend), and Grandma. I was sitting in Grandma’s apartment this evening when I realized that the three beautiful women around me didn’t look anything close to their ages. My mom’s family is blessed with the genetics of looking 20 years younger than they really are. Wow.

in milpitas, there are plenty of choices for chinese dining



This morning we opted for dim sum in Milpitas at Mayflower Seafood. Not too bad. The overall consensus was that Pan Tao’s chicken feet are better (hey, that’s the word, I don’t touch the stuff myself). We wandered around the markets and bakeries, took Grandma to shops so she could get various errands done, and I scored some goodies of my own to take home for future cooking projects.

mmmm, chili garlic sauce makes dim sum so very yum



Elena and I are always trying to coax recipes out of Grandma. All of that precious information is in her noggin! This morning we attempted to decifer her instructions for a Chinese pastry. So many women of her generation go by feel, not by measurement, when making food. Looks like I will have some experimentation to look forward to at home. But it not only feels like I’ve opened up a small treasure chest each time I learn about a new recipe from her - I also get to cherish one more part of my grandma in this way.

Tonight we went to Umi Sushi for dinner. Ermmm, it used to be pretty good, but tonight I think the quality and quantity of fish was rather disappointing. I expect good sushi in California. It’s frustrating that I would get anything less. Not sure that I will be returning here. If you south bay peeps have a favorite sushi joint, lay it on me!


spider roll and spicy tuna roll - meh



Well, Mom is sudoku-ing in bed, Elena is reading the NY Times, and I have managed not to screw up my commitment to NaBloWriMo for a fourth day. Yiha!

not dead

Sunday, September 7th, 2008

Long hiatus, I know. That’s what happens when you have major surgery. Apologies for the silence. I haven’t been on the blog at all and barely looked at my email in the past week. It’s all piling up and I’m not overly concerned at the moment. Thanks for all of your notes and comments.

I was in the hospital for 5 days with all manner of nurses “caring” for me round the clock while I endured some pretty horrific pain. [Caring is in quotes because I really believe if left in the hands of some of those nurses for more than a 12 hour shift I would indeed be dead by now.] Because it was emergency surgery, I got the surgeon on-call instead of my normal surgeon. Funny how some people have an accountant or an attorney, but me? I have a surgeon. I prefer my normal surgeon, but more than that, I prefer no surgery, no staples down my belly, no incapacitating pain when I sit up or stand.

I had mentioned a while back that we were preparing for a slew of visitors. Our first visitor, my dear friend Mitch, arrived in Boulder the night I went to the ER and flew home to London while I was still in the damn hospital - but we were able to share some QT while I was hooked up to oxygen, IV, O2 monitor, catheter, morphine, etc. I managed to get home right before Jeremy had to go on travel for a very important something or other (mum’s the word still), so my aunt came to stay with me until he returned this weekend. Now my parents are visiting. If ever you wondered how I got to be so hyper and full of energy, I point you to my mom and dad.

Kaweah was confused and a little depressed while I was away, but upon my return she has been quite pleased with all of the visitors and extra attention. Plus, while Jeremy was out of town, she snuggled up next to me on the bed each night, although she nearly killed me on Thursday when she shoved her chin on my abdomen and tried to hoist herself closer.


a puppy heals you faster than any drug



In my stupor of recovery, the weather in our mountain town has begun to flirt with fall. Overnight lows are nearly at freezing and on occasion we are getting those downright chilly, damp, and overcast days. I love it. I’d love it even more if I could get out into it… but I’m trying to keep my patience (or find it… whatever).

now that is what i’m talking about!



I can barely stand up straight for 10 minutes let alone cook right now. Instead, you are getting a guest cook tonight: Dad. Non-food bloggers cook very differently from food bloggers. My parents were surprised when I said that the final plating was in fact, one of the most important shots to get. They find the whole process intriguing and amusing. At least they humor me.

striped bass marinating in chinese sherry, salt, ginger, and green onion



We spent the first half of the day driving around Denver and Boulder to do some grocery shopping for this week’s menu. Shopping for Asian groceries was far easier when we lived in Southern California… My parents are all about cooking. They are both great cooks. Mom tends to be consistent and efficient. Dad almost never produces the same results, yet makes a big splash as well as a huge mess. Tonight, he made Tofu Fish (tofu yu).

sliced firm tofu

three kinds of hot sauce



Typically, my dad will catch his own fish for this dish. He recommends a striped bass or similar fish on the order of 2 pounds (whole fish) because anything larger loses tenderness and sweetness. Of course, the best we could find at the H Mart in Denver was a 5 pound striped bass, so Dad used the mid section.

tree ears, preserved mustard greens, ground pork, garlic, green onions, ginger



The recipe is somewhat involved. I highly recommend reading over the instructions carefully. I say this because when I asked my dad to sit down with me while I went over a previous version of the recipe, he changed about 50% of it. He kept saying, “Where’s the ground pork? You forgot to include that,” or “Not TWO tablespoons!” I nearly split my incision from laughter because he was the author of the previous version and kept wondering aloud who wrote such a stupid recipe…

sauté garlic, ginger, green onions and ground pork

simmering the fish in the sauce



Much of the recipe should be tweaked to taste. Dad likes food to be unbearably spicy. This is not a dish for spice wimps. It is indeed spicy, but amazingly good on a cold evening served along with steamed rice or Chinese flatbread. Much like Mapu Tofu, the flavors are better the next day.

add tofu to simmer



I haven’t yet made this dish myself, but I have watched my dad make it a dozen times by now. It’s one of those special occasion dishes. If you have issues with the recipe - take it up with Dad.

serve hot and spicy



Tofu Fish (tofu yu)

2 lb whole fish (cleaned/gutted) or 1.5 lb mid section of a fish (prefer striped bass)
1 tsp salt
1 stalk green onion, sliced
1 tbsp ginger, sliced
1/4 cup Chinese cooking sherry

2 lb fresh firm tofu or firm packaged tofu, sliced 1/2 inch thick
1 tsp salt

4 oz ground pork
1 tsp soy sauce
1/2 tsp Chinese cooking sherry
1 tsp cornstarch
1 tsp water or chicken broth

3 tbsp vegetable oil
1/2 cup green onion, minced
1/4 cup garlic, minced
1/4 cup ginger, minced
3 tbsp Chinese black bean chili sauce
3 tbsp Chinese chili garlic sauce
3 tbsp Chinese chili sauce
1/2 cup tree ears, julienned
1/2 cup preserved mustard green, rinsed and julienned
1 tbsp fermented sweet rice (jo nian) OR 1 tsp sugar
28 oz chicken broth
2 tbsp cornstarch (mixed with 2 tbsp water)
cilantro or green onions, chopped (for garnish)

If using fresh tofu: bring a large pot of water and 1 tsp of salt to a boil. Add the tofu and let cook for 2 minutes, then drain water off and set aside.

Make vertical cuts along the length of the fish on both sides. Mix sherry with salt, green onion slices, and ginger slices. Rub mixture over the fish and let sit for 10 minutes.

Mix the ground pork, soy sauce, cooking sherry, cornstarch, and water (or chicken broth) together in a small bowl. Set aside.

Heat vegetable oil in a large frying pan. When the oil is hot, add ginger, green onions, and garlic. Sauté until fragrant. Add pork and stir-fry until half cooked. Add all hot sauces and cook until pork is done. Then add tree ears and mustard green. Cook for a few minutes then add chicken broth and fermented sweet rice (or sugar). Bring to boil, then place fish in the pan. Cook on high for 4 minutes then reduce to medium heat for 6 minutes. Turn fish over. Add tofu and simmer for 6 minutes. Remove fish and place on a platter. Add cornstarch mixture to sauce. Cook until thickened, then remove from heat and pour over fish. Garnish with cilantro or green onions.